January 14, 2013

Our Sleeping Arrangement - Sidecar Crib

A month ago, I mentioned that Y, for the first time, fell from our bed. We spent that night sleeping over my parents' bedroom simply because I was traumatized. Oh diba, ako yung na-trauma eh di naman ako ang nahulog? Hehehe. But seriously, I wanted to change our sleeping arrangement ASAP because I didn't want the incident to happen again.

So Y's crib, which used to be beside our living room, had to be transported upstairs to our bedroom. Yes, that was a sweaty afternoon. Here's what my small bedroom looked like after:

Please excuse my sister's face. Teehee.
The crib was too huge; it's almost as big as my bed, but we had no choice. There's the little boy, happily playing inside his new "bed," but after a few minutes:

Uh-oh, we're going to have a problem.
Obviously, Y is not used to being on his own, not to mention inside something that looks like a cage. That's attachment parenting for you! Still, I think we could work it out. I would just let Y sleep beside me at night and wait until he's deeply asleep. Then, I will place him inside the crib. That should work.

Not!

Apparently, Y has this sixth sense, where he knows he's going to be put down inside the crib. Five times that night, he clung to me just when I was about to put him down. And boy, did he cry. So after a few hours of trying, I gave up. I placed the crib right beside the bed to serve as our fence, and let Y sleep beside me in bed.

I didn't sleep immediately, though. I browsed the internet for sleeping arrangement ideas that can work for us. I had this idea of removing one side of the crib and placing it beside the bed. When I tried to search for it, I found out that it's a real arrangement and that it even had a name: Sidecar Crib.

The next day, I did just as instructed in a lot of blogs I read the previous night. It was easy enough; all you have to do is remove the drop-down side of the crib. You know, the one that can be adjusted. Then, I placed it against the wall (it should not be on the open side of the bed), and then moved one of my shelves at the foot of the crib for stability. Tada!

Our first sidecar sleeping arrangement
It worked, but not very well. All night, I had trouble sleeping because my back hurt. Why? Because my bed was too high, and everytime Y had to breastfeed, half of my body is on the crib, which was lower than the bed.

Aside from that, I found out that the bed I used, which was spring-mattress, moved away from the crib and created gaps that became larger through the night. If you look closely at the photo above, you will see the pillows that I inserted to fill the gap. Did it work? No, because as the gap became larger, they just fell to the floor. I was too afraid to sleep, so I let Y sleep by my side once again.

The next day, I knew I had to change the bed. Luckily, we have an unused bed in my sister's bedroom 9 (albeit smaller) that is not spring and has a frame, which I can tie to the frame of the crib. It is crucial to keep the bed and the crib from separating. Sorry, I wasn't able to take photos of the tying part, but any kind of rope will do.

Among the three days I worked on this sleeping arrangement, that day was the hardest. That spring-bed is as heavy as heck! I swear I lost 5 pounds just moving it to the next bedroom. But here's what it looked like after my intense workout:

Finally, no moving gap in between the bed and the crib!
There was no gap between the bed and the crib because I was able to tie the frame of the bed and the frame of the crib together. Also, I was able to sleep with no back pain because this time, the bed was on the same height level as the crib. Yay!

I placed the comforter in between for continuity.
Right after taking this photo, I collapsed into the freshly made bed. New sheet are looove!
And what about overly-attached Y? What I do is that I let him sleep beside me first. Then, after maybe an hour, I carefully place him "inside" the crib. He doesn't cry or wake up because it's still as if he's sleeping beside me, only in a safer place. Also, he can still smell me (and my milk), unlike when I placed him in the crib away from the bed.

Proof that the sidecar sleeping arrangement works
As a supporter of co-sleeping, I believe this is the most ideal sleeping arrangement when the baby becomes mobile. Do this when your baby is already adept at crawling; in our case, rolling over or sitting down are not necessary reasons to change sleeping arrangements because I'm a light sleeper, relatively. I can only speak for myself, though. Use your better judgment and trust your instinct as to when it is best to stop full co-sleeping. :-)

Disclaimer: The sidecar crib sleeping arrangement only works with cribs that are stable even with one side taken. In our case, our huge crib (which is a hand-me-down, by the way), remained stable when I removed the drop-down side. I believe this won't work with playpens (duh?) and portable cribs. And if the crib is not made to be dismantled, by all means, do not take it apart.

43 comments :

  1. I like the choices you've made to keep baby safe... I have older kids now but would have done same.
    Eliz BC Blogger

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  2. I remember my aunt saying that she bought a very hug made-to-order crib so that the baby sitter can also go inside, play or sleep with the baby :)

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    1. Ours is also big; unfortunately, I don't think it can accommodate my weight haha

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  3. This arrangement looks safe...Such scenario is really traumatizing to parents especially moms, because it's like we feel the pain our babies go through.

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    1. Y sometimes crosses from the crib to the bed, but it still feels safe, way safer than plain co-sleeping. :-)

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  4. My son usually sleep in his crib on his first month, but after hearing the oldies here that it's better to let the baby sleep with us for closer bonding, we did it. Since, we're worried he might fall from the bed we removed the bed and placed the foam/mattress on the floor. We've placed rubber mats on the floor too.

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    1. I would have done that, too, but I was afraid of roaches and other insects crawling over us. Marami kasi yun sa bahay. o_O

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  5. Our kids were co-sleepers also. When they were too big for the playpen/crib, we had rubber mats placed on the floor beside our bed and placed a mattress for the kids. When we gave them a new bed just last year, they were so happy to have their own "high bed".

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    1. I can imagine the look on their faces when they saw their own bed. Precious!

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  6. we co-sleep at home too. even when my son was younger. we squeezed into one queen size bed. oh and my husband sleeps on my daughter's single bed if he rans out of space.

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    1. I wish it was easy like that. I'm technically single, so I haven't graduated from a single bed pa. Hahaha.

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  7. i and the little one sleep together until now.. I put the bed on the wall side para sa wall side sya. hindi mahuhulog..

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    1. We had that arrangement before, and of course, Y was always against the wall. However, he's crawling now, so we needed a new arrangement.

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  8. ang ganda ng crib ni baby..colorful din yung bedsheet niyu..Ako din sis, i love colorful bedsheets..

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    1. Thank you! I just noticed both sheets in the photos were pink. Hindi naman masyadong halata ang favorite color ng may-ari haha

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  9. yay! you found a solution! I think it's great that you continue to co-sleep but it's now safer for baby Y too. I wonder when my nephew will start sleeping on his own? He's 2 now.

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    1. I think he should continue co-sleeping muna. I don't think I'll let my son sleep on his own until he's 18. Kidding!

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  10. awwww.... we're co-sleeping too!!! and he's more than a year old already... the hubby's actually getting worried we wont be able to let him sleep away from us for the longest time... with the new baby coming im actually still trying to solve what our arrangement would be... :D

    but you did an excellent mcgyver-thing here!!!! super moms talaga!!! :D

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    1. Hahaha I'm used to moving furniture kasi. It's my stress-reliever. Hindi ko lang inakalang ganun pala kabigat ang kama. Haha!

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  11. i've seen a plastic lock??? on Jenelyn's house so her son would not be able to go downstairs. i think, that would also fit your room and crib.

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    1. We considered getting one for the stairs. Pero not for the bed kasi everything's going well naman.

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  12. Brilliant! Mas makakatabi mo na c baby; and you'll be extra sure he's safe while he sleeps.

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    1. Thank you, Rizza! Oo nga, perfect solution for us. :-)

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  13. That crib is huge! Great setup for you and your baby. I love co-sleeping. Our lil girl sleeps with us even if she's now 4.

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    1. Yes it is! Awww, I also want to co-sleep with my baby for a long time. :D

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  14. Good job! =) always take care of your little y. :)

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  15. For the longest time, we slept on the floor. When I thought the kids were old enough to sleep on beds my 5 year old daughter fell from the bed. Needless to say, we all got traumatized. We are now floor leaders again and the bed is just where the pillows are placed.

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    1. I wanted to sleep on the floor, too, but there are roaches on the second floor of our house. I don't know why. :-(

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  16. All that effort...I can hear you sighing with relief upon finding a suitable arrangement for both of you. :-)

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    1. Haha, I did! But it's worth it. Thanks, Aileen!

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  17. What is it they say? A parent is the mother of all inventions. Ha ha Very creative!

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    1. I thought it was my own invention, hindi pala. It had a name pala! :D

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  18. This is what I am thinking right now. We are co-sleeping for 31 months already. Hehe. I am planning to buy a smaler bed then attach it to our bed so my son can sleep on his own. Kaso lang after New Year because he heard all the horrifying sounds of the firecrackers, he insisted to sleep in between Dad and Mom again. Before that, he was sleeping on the safer side next to the wall.

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    1. That's actually the arrangement I grew up with! I co-slept with my parents until my mom got pregnant with my little sister. So they bought me a little bed and "attached" it to their bed.

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  19. Our 2-year old son is still sharing bed with us We are planning to have him a separate bed but we are afraid he might fell. Your sidecar crib idea is great.

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  20. That was also our problem with my first born. So hubby and I decided to remove the frame and just use the mattress. Now that i have a second child, we still sleep on the floor with mattress.

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  21. This is a really nice and practical sidecar!!!

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  22. Good job mommy!!! I'm glad this is finally over. Great thinking on that side car crib. My 2nd had a hard time sleeping, but she fell off the bed when we moved here in the UAE. May crib kasi siya sa Syria pero iniwan namin. So when we came here, ok siya at first but then came after a few days, nalaglag siya in the middle of the night. Na-trauma rin ako. So I borrowed a kutsyon nalang and now she and her sister sleeps on the floor. kahit na umikot ikot sila magkapatid, ok lang. Kalma na ako hahaha! This is not our house rin kasi so we don't own the everything. hahaha!

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  23. Traumatic talaga yun ano, for the mommy (you know what they say about babies falling and being caught by angels :) ). With my kids, we coslept when they were babies. I actually had a baby crib for my youngest and had him there for his first month, but I considered co-sleeping kasi babies crave our warmth ata. But, it does pose a problem when they start to crawl and roll over. I like your set up :)

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  24. Nice idea, sis! Good job. Though I hope we had a crib then, pero what we had was a playpen, huhu. Traumatic talaga malaglag ang baby, my baby fell off the bed when he was 5 months old. :-( thanks for sharing.

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